Im an inner city girl. I grew up in a "not-so-fancy" neighborhood. My mom was a single parent that worked miracles to raise my brother and I. Im saying all this to say, I know the struggle and yes I know how it feels to want more for your life. Yesterday, I was listening to the radio and the show's topic was "Should women marry for money?" My answer is uh...NO.
I did some research and discovered that 40% of marriages end in divorce, and the primary cause was because of financial issues. So one would think it is smart to marry someone and not have to worry about how the bills will get paid. But what happens when your love for all things shiny and designer is the only common interest that you and your husband share?? DIVORCE.
The show referenced a new book called "Smart Girls Marry Money:How Women Have been Duped into the Romantic Dream-and How they're paying for it." I have yet to read this book, I will soon. Anyway, it's a self-help guide that authors Daniela Drake and Elizabeth Ford wrote to advise women not to marry for just love.
There are certain qualities that I enjoy in a partner. His smile (warm and inviting). His scent (sweet yet strong). Our conversation (open and honest). Am I comfortable being myself around him? Does he make me laugh? (that is a must...lol) What type of personality does he have (intelligent, outgoing, and friendly)? Yes! Yes! Yes! These are the things that I want, and if he just so happens to be financially well off, that's a plus.
Now, the inner wanna-be "rich girl" deep inside of me is screaming "you're such a hypocrite!!" I must admit that being spoiled and enjoying luxarious things, is my guilty pleasure. I do desire to one day live that lifestyle. But I will not compromise that warm, gitty feeling that I get inside when Im in love for a Gucci bag.
Because we all know that life is not always written in black and white....here's the gray area. I would like my partner to be financially savvy and ambitious. Someone who is not lazy and puts fourth an effort to enhance his finances. If he is not there yet, so be it. We will grow and build together.
When that day comes, and Im standing in front of God and the people that I love most, I want be able to enter into a union with my best friend, not a ATM Machine.
What do u think?
